by Kurt Spelling
Lately I’ve been getting a ton of emails from guys wondering, “Why can’t I get a girlfriend!” Obviously, there are actions these people can take to begin improving they’re abilities with women.
Unfortunately, most people will never know the underlying causes behind their lack of success.
Many men, even with all the knowledge, information, techniques, tactics, and lines, will NOT be successful with women. FORTUNATELY, I’m going to reveal some of the inner workings behind this issue.
I’m going to two teach you two important distinctions that should clear up your question of why you can’t get a girlfriend, and help you move towards getting one!
Here’s the funny (or not so funny) thing. It’s a catch 22 of sorts. It’s really easy to get a girlfriend once you stop wanting one. Let me explain.
If everyday you wake up and you’re thinking “Ugg I just want a girlfriend. Man, I really want a girlfriend. I’m alone. I really need a girlfriend. Why can’t I get a girlfriend?” If every day you wake up and you mentally and emotionally reinforce this lack of a girlfriend, you reinforce those bad kinds of feelings, those non-abundant feelings. Because of this, you’ll absolutely stay stuck living in that paradigm.
You don’t even realize it, but you’re reinforcing your behaviors and keeping yourself from having a girlfriend. If what you’re consistently acknowledging is the lack of a girlfriend in your life, you will continue to not have one.
It’s a bit abstract, but bad feelings persist when you embrace the bad feelings. So, if everyday you’re like “Ugg I want a girlfriend. This sucks.”, you be sure that everyday you’re going to wake up and feel bad because you’re consistently creating reality. It’s a cycle of negativity and lack.
So, my first advice would be to stop trying to get a girlfriend. If you really, really want a girlfriend and you haven’t had one, stop trying to get one. What you need to do instead is to start working on improving yourself and working towards your goals and here’s exactly why.
A successful relationship can only exists when at least one person is really grounded, knows who they are, and is very secure in themselves. If neither party of the relationship are, then you will get your typical relationship, which ends after a the initial happy times are over and the fighting starts.
A phenomenal, effortless relationship occurs when two people are really confident, really know their purpose in life, and get together to make each others’ lives better.
It’s mutually beneficial. It’s mutually energizing. It’s fantastic! But, you can’t ever experience this if you never take the time to improve yourself, learn about who you are, grow as a person, and go after creating the life you desire.
So now you need to ask yourself, what turns you on? And I’m not talking about sex. I’m talking about what motivates you. What are you excited about? What are your passions?
You need to explore these questions and begin to embrace the answers. These answers are the reason you are on this planet. Learning who you are will then allow you to authentically share that with another, creating that fantastic relationship I was talking about.
If you’re wondering “why can’t I get a girlfriend”, but also have never taken the time to explore yourself, then the place to start is internal. You’ve got to learn who you are, what you’re into, where you’d like to go in life, etc.
Now this doesn’t mean that you have to be a business man, entrepreneur, or anything like that. Your purpose in life could be being the best second grade art teacher ever, and that’s exactly what makes you super happy and that’s exactly how you want to live your life.
If that’s how you feel about it, then that’s perfect, that’s exactly what you should be doing! You have to discover what that is first.
Most of us don’t ever take the time. We go to high school, get good grades, go to college, and do a certain major based on how much money we want to make or because we were told that we’re “good” at math. It’s as if most of us go through life blindfolded. We never stop to ask these important questions.
So if you want to get a girlfriend, I strongly suggest start to look at yourself and expand your confidence.
Step two, is to release the wanting. You have to let go of your constant desire to get a girlfriend, as if your life is meaningless without one.
You need to love every day of your life and treat it as a blessing. Start exploring yourself and always make a conscious effort to just let go anytime the thoughts of “why can’t I get a girlfriend” come up.
That’s exactly how we find an awesome girlfriend. As you start working on yourself, making your life exactly how you want it to be, the perfect girls who would compliment this lifestyle tend to just “show up”. It all flows into your reality very effortlessly if you let it.
So, stop thinking so much about the lack. Stop thinking about why you can’t get a girlfriend. Just let go and send it off to the forces that be.
When it’s time for you to have a girlfriend she’ll “show up”. Now, I’m not saying she’s going to fall in your lap, and you definitely need to learn exactly how to meet, attract, and seduce women to make it all happen, but I’m telling you this is the proper mindset to allow a great girlfriend to enter your life.
If you want to get your hands on my entire system for meeting, attracting, and seduce the women you desire, make sure to check out my Simple Seduction eBook package! It’s got the exact information you need to learn how to get a girlfriend.
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